‘Find her, the one they’re all talking about, the forgetful one that loses her shoes’…

The classic tale of “Cinderella” has stood the test of time and draws crowds of girls of all ages, young and aged and knows no cultural boundaries. During my June ’17 trip to our children’s orphanage in PAP, Haiti, I discovered that, although oceans and time zones apart, even our sweet Haitian beauties just love, love, love Cinderella.

In the company of stepsisters, a stepmother, a big pumpkin, very cute mice and slippers made of real glass, great thought is given to the counsel given by Cinderella’s mother, “Have Courage, and Be kind.” Why are audiences clinging to these words, “Have Courage, and Be Kind?” There’s a parallel to the words found written on the wall of Mother Teresa’s home for children in Calcutta:

People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.  
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.  
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some
genuine enemies.
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. 
Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. 
Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. 
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. 
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. 
Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. 
It was never between you and them anyway.

Being the kind of woman God designed us to be takes courage and it takes courage to be kind. Courage to stick it out when you want to quit, assured that He who holds the universe will get us out of any trouble, rescue us, then throw us a party…Courage to forgive not just for the other person, but to spare ourselves a painful poisoning because in our heart we know it messes up our spiritual life if we hold onto it…Courage to resist the urge to lash out when spearheaded insults are hurled our way…Courage to be kind when we’re insulted, mistreated and misunderstood. God wants us to be brave! Even biblical heavy-hitters like Moses and Joshua had to be reminded to “be strong and courageous.”

The Apostle Paul reminds us (2 Corinthians 12:9-10 GWT)…. 9 But he told me: “My kindness is all you need. My power is strongest when you are weak….” 10 I accept weakness, mistreatment, hardship, persecution, and difficulties suffered for Christ. It’s clear that when I’m weak, I’m strong.”

Whether it’s Monday morning or midnight Sunday, on our weakest day, in our weakest hour or weakest moment, we are STRONGER than we realize and prepared for whatever our day may hold. Although we may be caught by surprise, God never is. He already knows what He’s going to do! Through Jesus Christ, He clothes us in courage and kindness for the day; He clothes us in His matchless strength. To all the fashionistas’, aren’t you lovin’ our new wardrobe found in Proverbs 31; ‘she is dressed with strength and nobility and she smiles at the future.’ I’m smiling right now, are you? Wink!

Be that girl ~ the one who majors in love and not hatred. I’ll always remember the day this phrase settled on the canvas of my imagination. A preacher said it this way, “Haters gonna hate, hate, hate, but they hate you cause they ain’t you.” I can say, from some serious, personal experiences – just keep LOVING! God takes notice.

Oh, to be the graceful example of kindness that conquers meanness with a confidence that good ALWAYS prevails over evil. Be determined, “I’ll be the one who majors in happiness.” It’s a daily choice and I choose happiness. I choose courage. I choose kindness. I choose forgiveness. I choose the path that leads me beside the still waters and green pastures ~ Be that girl.

Be that girl ~ the one who makes it her priority to spend time in the presence of her God, longing for Him, knowing that if we don’t make time for Him, no one will make it for us. He longs to hear our voice, to calm our fears, to be our PRINCE of peace and to lighten the load of heaviness which our marvelously sculpted shoulders were never designed to carry.

Be that girl ~ the one who’s waiting on the Lord everyday of her life because delightful things will surely happen when He says, “It’s your time!”

This is an invitation to authentically be whom God has called us to, be that girl, the living expression of God himself, expressed in our face, in our eyes, in our smile, in our heart. Find her, she’s inside of you. ‘Have courage and be kind, you have more kindness in your little finger than most people have in their whole body.’

~ Mary McIver